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What is True Infantilism?

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2010
Dear Miss Stringer, I just read your article on infantilism. I really must congratulate you on your intuitive knowledge of this subject. Bravo!! I want to tell you that you are completely correct w3hen you said that therapy could not possibly have any positive affects on the true infantilist, other than helping that sad individual find some self esteem. Your comparison to transvestitism and transexualism are right on the money! I consider myself, what I call a hundred percenter. That is to say that my problem is an entire identity issue. Francis

2010
Thank you printing your informative essay TRUE INFANTILISM. It was very enlightening. I have been questioning and researching why I am the way I am for most of my 52 year life, You have clarified so much, I believe everyone should read it. Who doesn't have an attachment of some sort?
Feel free to respond. Take care! Larry

2010
From a 15-Year-Old Boy
I would like to thank you for writing the article on infantilism. As an infantilist who's struggling with acceptance, I hope that this will help my family understand. Thank you. Stuart - Age: 15

2009
Hi Kathi, Thank you for your web-site. It is so nice to finally find someone who understands. Jerry

2009
From an 18-Year-Old Boy
Hello, My name is Max and I am an 18 year old infantilist. I have recently read your article entitled "What is true infantilism?" and I have to say....Wow. I never thought in all my years as an AB/DL that someone would be able to strike suck emotion in me the way this article has. It has defined me to the very word! I have to say that if not for your article I would have fallen into a deep depression long ago. Thank you for saving my life. And I do mean that exactly as it sounds...if not for this article I can almost guarantee I would have taken it myself....Forever and always me. Max

2009
Hi Kathi- My name is Erin Johnson, and I am an infantilist. I want you to know, that I was I coming to terms with this aspect of myself, I found your website and breathed a huge sigh of relief as I began to read. I especially agree with your opinions about the abuse connections, and also that infantilism is a healthy coping mechanism for those of thus who feel that need. While I was dealing with shame about this part of me, I needed to find something as supportive and positive as this, to begin to accept myself in a new light. As someone who has found a healthy way to cope with some hard times in my past. Thank You, Erin

2009
I would like to say thank you for your well written article, I have been into the AB lifestyle for many many years. I use your site to educate and inform individuals who are not aware or need info to help me explain. The web has changed where many sites are now catering to a fetish but your site in invaluable. Dan

2009
Kathi, your insights would have saved me many years of guilt had I been counselled by you when I most needed it. Self-acceptance has finally come, thanks in part to the freedom and reach of the internet. And mostly to the wonderful people I have met who have shared my interests. Thank you for the powerful affirmation.

2009
Hi Kathi, I'm a 24 year old Australian with infantilistic/regressive tenancies. I discovered your website a few months back. Your essay "What is True Infantilism?" is one of two writings I have come across which have really resonated with me (insofar as being stunningly accurate in describing central aspects of my psyche). It is certainly the best explanation I have found of/for this aspect of myself. Tommy

2009
Hi Kathi, I ran across your Infantilism/Advanced Baby essays via Heidilynn's website the other day, and I have to say it's amazing work. Your essay "What is true infantilism?" really rang true to me, I'd not ever heard of the transitional object aspect. I'd never been satisfied with the fetishistic explanation of my interest in diapers/nappies and other "baby paraphernalia", as I've always felt that the sexual aspect was a secondary. Heidi's website is the first time I ever ran across the term "Advanced Baby" but I feel it fits me *MUCH* better. Morgan

2008
Dear Kathi Stringer, Your article on infantilism located at has been a real life saver for me and the most helpful information I have found. It makes me feel like I am not the only one in the whole wide world and also it helps me understand these feeling I can actually remember having back before age 3-4. Denna

2008
Hi Kathi, you are my personal hero. You write excellent about the AB lifestyle, not a fetish!  Peter

2008
Kathi, Your research in this area has made such a difference in my life....The more I read, the more I seem to understand about me.
Obviously, you have had a major part in that understanding with your own openness and hard work for others. Gil

2008
Dear, Kathi, My name is Erika I'm 39 years old, I am a pre-op transsexual, I found one of your many website, in particular http://www.toddlertime.com and was just amazed by the insight you have on psychology and understanding of the self, self-realization. Reading and examining the toddlertime site helps me understand myself on a more scholastic and intimate level. I have many aspirations that are met with many obstacles in my life and I'm constantly struggling to bring things into focus but there is something about me that I myself do not understand, nor do other people because there are things that are hard to simply explain and more specifically being a kidult/rejuvenile/regression/adult little girl or adult baby and other synonyms used to describe this category of human behavior or life style. Erika

2008
Dear Kathi Stringer,
Let me first say that I have the utmost respect for you about writing articles on infantilism and the advanced baby. Their is not enough information on the internet or anywhere else that supports this lifestyle, you are the only one I could find that truly understands this lifestyle. Roger

2007
Dear Ms Kathi Stringer, I just recently read your post of Infantilism and I found it to be very informative. Especially since I am or have been involved in this kind of behavior for most of my life. It probably started if my memory is correct when I was about 7, 8, or 9 years old. I truly thought back then that I was the only kid in the world going thru this and having these feelings. I am in my mid 40's now and still feel the need to wear diapers and have those feelings, just as I did when I was 8 years old. Thomas

2007
Dear Kathi, I have read your articles about infantilism and find your insights and your argumentation most fascinating. There is much truth and help in them. Gert

2007
Kathi, I just read your article "What is True Infantilism?" I want to thank you for your insights. For the first time in my life, I revealed my Infantilism to my therapist, my wife, and my long-time best friend, about a week before I read your article....Your article describes many of the events in my own life. S.G.

2007
Hi Kathi I read your articles on Infantilism and I have to say thanks for the insight into a condition I have lived with all my life. I found the articles very helpful in helping me understand my own affliction. Cliff

2007
Dear Kathi, I just finished reading your articles "What is True Infantilism" and The Advanced Baby". Both of the articles were very informative, detailed and interesting.

2006
And I never thought I find something that would resonate with me like it did! Both gender identity and some of the other issues you discuss are things I've been dealing with for a very long time. There's a lot of info online about gender identity but so much of what's out there manages to avoid the deeper mental health or philosophical aspects and instead focuses heavily on the superficial aspects, and the same applies to anything one comes across regarding infantilism or regression. Simon

2006
Thank you for the information on your website discussing true infantilism vs. fetishism. There are so very many people involved in one or the other of these areas and yet it appears to be such a taboo subject that it is virtually never discussed in mainstream media. Perhaps that will change, but I doubt it. In any event, thank you again for your very helpful information. K.H.

2006
Hello Kathi, Some people amaze me, some make me happy, some make me understand. You did all :) thanks for that, I do wonder, your articles are good, but how is your own experience or lifestyle towards your articles?
Thanks, love Peter

2006
Kathi, Hi, and thanks for the article True Infantilism on your web page..... You're very gifted and I know that you speak from real life experience as I have seen some of your pictures and I wanted to personally thank you for sharing and truly explaining Infantilism in a very positive light...Thanks again Kathi for the wonderful article and being part of us.

2006
Kathi, I have been searching for information about infantilism and regression.
What I have found on your website is the best explanation and
contains the most professional information by far, of anyplace that I
have found on the web. You know exactly what it is and what it is like.

I know that there is very little other professional research that has
been done on this topic. Much of what little others have written is
dated. R.B.

2006
Dear Miss Stringer,

Your article on regression and infantilism gives me some hope.

2006
I thank you in every respect, it makes me feel much better about me in every way; I know that I am not alone thank you!. You hit me perfectly, thank you. You have put me much more at ease with my life. I tried to get rid of it for many years, but then I knew that would never happen. It gives we a warm chill that I am not alone!

2006
I think in general your articles are excellent, and the ones on regression is right on the mark. T.W.

2005
Dear Kathi, I happen to be going through an incredibly stressful time in my life, and once again my infantilism has manifested itself. My wonderful partner ( I am a woman who is married to another woman) found herself faced with a spouse who was not only dealing with depression and anxiety, but also who was also demonstrating regressive behaviours. To make a very long story short, I am fortunate to have found an amazing counsellor at our local rape crisis centre, and then I was fortunate to find your article. It helped me, my spouse, and my counsellor incredibly. I was astounded at how you quite simply described the condition, and how you mirrored my life with your description of typical causes. Mostly, though, you helped my spouse. Her fear has turned to understanding; her apprehension has turned to support.

I frequently read how infantilism was some kind of sexual paraphilia, and I didn't believe it for a moment. I remember needing my transitional objects at a very young age, as a matter of fact, as early as I can remember. Sexual fetish? I knew this was not true in my case. Yet this was what the literature described, and it caused me great guilt and anguish. Was I really some kind of pervert? Now I know that the coping mechanism that I enjoy is simply that; a coping mechanism, and a particularly benign one at that.

Thank you so much for your insightful article. I can't describe how helpful it has been. Missy

2005
Kathi: As an adult that has struggled with infantilism my entire life fighting depression, guilt, shame and everything else that goes with wanting to be loved as a "baby" rather than a "man" I sincerely appreciate the time and effort you put into your essay. I'm 58 years old and have finally accepted who I am. Had I had your essay to help guide me 50 years ago, when the urge to put on a diaper first developed, I know I would have lived a more fulfilled and successful life. Fortunately, I met a wonderful woman 24 years ago that accepted me as I was and for the past 24 years, thru her acceptance and patience of my need, I've accepted myself.

I am the second oldest of seven children, having an older brother that is only eleven months older than I. I was born about a month and half premature and soon after my birth my mother was hospitalized with a mental break down. Your description of potential causes of infantilism, from parents that didn't seem to know how to or have the time to parent hit right at home. I grew up with a total feeling of worthlessness and of being unloved. By regressing at an early age, I was able to, at least in my mind, find peace. Thank you for taking the time to put into understandable words, an acceptable reason, for why we are what we are. I know that your essay has been read by many and have helped more of us than you will probably ever know. Mike

2005
I read your article regarding infantilism and found it very useful in understanding myself, Thank You.

2005
Hi and wow! I loved your article so much!

2005
From an 18-Year-Old Girl
I saw your article about infantilism a while back. I am an 18 year old girl
infantilist, and wanna say that your article really helped my mom.
I have a wonderful boyfriend who I met online and recently met, he is an
infantilist and the love of my life. I had told my mom a little bit about
it, but it was very hard to explain, and my mom was very nervous in her mind that it could be a fetish with my boyfriend. We gave her the web site with the article and she read though it and feels very comfortable with it now. Thank you for writing this article, without this I could be in allot of trouble with constant questions from my mother and fear I would never see my boyfriend again. This article in a way, was a real life saver. Holly

2005
Dear Kathi, I happen to be going through an incredibly stressful time in my life, and once again my infantilism has manifested itself. My wonderful partner (I am a woman who is married to another woman) found herself faced with a spouse who was not only dealing with depression and anxiety, but also who was also demonstrating regressive behaviours. To make a very long story short, I am fortunate to have found an amazing counsellor at our local rape crisis centre, and then I was fortunate to find your article. It helped me, my spouse, and my counsellor incredibly. I was astounded at how you quite simply described the condition, and how you mirrored my life with your description of typical causes. Mostly, though, you helped my spouse. Her fear has turned to understanding; her apprehension has turned to support.

I frequently read how infantilism was some kind of sexual paraphilia, and I didn't believe it for a moment. I remember needing my transitional objects at a very young age, as a matter of fact, as early as I can remember. Sexual fetish? I knew this was not true in my case. Yet this was what the literature described, and it caused me great guilt and anquish. Was I really some kind of pervert? Now I know that the coping mechanism that I enjoy is simply that; a coping mechanism, and a particularly benign one at that.

Thank you so much for your insightful article. I can't describe how helpful it has been. M.

2005
I don't know whether to kiss or kill you. (lol) After years of wondering why I was unable to validate my own creative style as an actor and recording artist( always mimicking other artists or actors--never able to create and develop my own unique "style") I now have an idea as to why this was. Unfortunately for me, this knowledge comes to me too late in life to be able to be of any benefit to me in a professional/career sense. Hollywood and Nashville are youth oriented, marketing wise. But at last, some long time unanswered questions have been, if not answered, at least shed a little light on. Probably wasn't much I could do about it anyway. The best thing for me to do when I had a choice was choose a different career. But I certainly had the talent and looks for a successful career in showbiz. Just the wrong psyche.

I am a True Infantilist. At least in the sense your and Dr. Vaknin's essays describe. A lot of other unanswered questions were also addressed in those
treatises. Thank you. Sincerely, William Windsor

2005
I just read your review on Infantilism. In your article, you described my childhood and later years perfectly. Reading your article was the first time I've received confirmation of what I've believed all my life, but could not find research to back up my feelings. I am married to a wonderful woman who takes care of both my baby side and my female side. You are correct, a transsexual is not tied to a fetish. I long to be accepted in society as a female; my wife supports me in this desire. My female baby side brings many hours of total relaxation to me. Before I retired, I would throw myself into my work in order to "get away" from who I really am. That only led to my depression and somewhat bad moods on occasion since I couldn't have baby or Melissa seen to by my "Mommy" or "Girlfriend" when baby and Melissa needed attention. One last remark, your article taught me more about my personality than any of the four therapists I've seen during my life. I'm currently discussing a sex change program with my Medical Doctor. She also supports my wishes. You're right, it is only when I accept myself will I be truly happy. When I break down and have my toes and nails done at my nail tech's salon, I am absolutely in love with life. The ladies all accept me and that's what makes the difference. Thank you again for helping me find peace within myself. M.

2005
From a 15-Year-Old Foster Child
I am e-mailing you to thank you for a clearer and more knowledgeable explanation of infantilism, I am 15, and I am living in foster care, I have found that I have had to move from place to place many time because of this "babyness", I am not sure what category I come under, but I have no control over it, if I am really stressed, I do more babyish things without realizing. You webpage has helped me further understand the link between me being "baby" and lion who I believe is my transitional object.

Once again many thanks for the article, you have a gift for writing and I hope my comments have been useful, if you ever need someone to ask then let me know, I have already informed my foster mum that I would be e-mailing.

As a side note, a copy of this article has been placed in my folder which is passed to any foster parents I go to, and since that has been done then I have only been to the one placement, where I am now is by far the best place I have ever been, people can understand the why, and then learn to accept the when. Many, many thanks. J.

2005
Message From A Therapist
I am in general agreement with your comments and thank you for posting them. My experience in dealing with patients who exhibit these behaviors is that there is a dynamic of self castration internalized from castrating wishes the mother experienced around the child and towards the child.
In the end, there is a great deal of repetition compulsion of internal criticism and judgment and trying to 'get rid of the behavior's feeds into that and recreates it.

So, as you stated so well, self acceptance and love is the best approach to target the emptiness and pain that was ground for the growth of the process. I thought the object relations and Winnicottian connections especially elegant; nicely done. A gentle non judgmental explanation that is appreciated by many. A Therapist

2005
You have described better than anyone I have read what True Infantilism is all about. It has its beginnings in earliest childhood. BY the time a child is two or three years old this phenomenon is or at least can be a conscious part of one's being. Even at that early age the fear of discovery can be intensely present in the individual.

This is apparently a situation from which numerous people suffer. So much on the inter-net has transposed the entire issue to something comparable to
a fetish.....It amazes me that there is so little professional investigation of this topic. What little information there is seems to gravitate to trashy sites.
Thank you for addressing the problem from a professional and rational perspective. R.M.B.

2005
From a 13-Year-Old Parent
I just read your article on infantilism. Wow!! I have a 13 year old son who has been getting into so much trouble because of his need to wear diapers. He has tried to steal them from stores. He goes thru people's trash. We have been beside ourselves. This information is so helpful. I would love to talk to you more about it. Let me know if that is possible. If not, thanks for your insight. The article is really helpful. J.

2005
I just read your articles on "What is True Infantilism?" and I have to say it was wonderful. I am a true Infantilist and your article really spoke to me. Thank you for your interest, and your profound views. I have read some other articles on Infantilism, and some of them called us perverts and one supposedly done by a doctor said we were all sick. It is nice to see someone treating Infantilism the way it should be treated.
Thank You Again.

2005
The articles you have posted on your website about infantilism.... are sensitive and insightful. I am a happy..., and have been in many loving relationships in which my baby needs have been incorporated, and even enhanced the relationship – what bonding! I am also a successful professional, and more importantly, a good friend, daughter and sister. Thank you.

2005
Though I emailed you several years ago for reasons I no longer remember, a link brought me back to your site tonight. I am completely and totally blown away at this moment. As I read the paragraph entitled, "The Abuse Connection" the greatest mystery of my life became solved. Word for word, this is an exact description of the events of my childhood.....In my daily life, I work for a Silicon Valley high tech company, in a position of great responsibility. I function and socialize normally both within and outside of the work place. On the exterior, I am SO normal; a true functioning and productive member of society. On the interior, I have days where I feel this guilt and think I must absolutely be the most screwed up member in all of society. All and all, I’ve learned just to ‘go with it’. I’ve thought about seeking professional help yet realize the primary focus would really come back to self acceptance.....Tonight that imaginary light bulb burned bright above my head as I feel, you have totally enlightened me. For this Kathi, I thank you. I feel as though I’ve been touched by someone special. Thank-you again, R

2004
I read your report, and felt that it was the first time it has been explained in a non-sexual forum. I feel it is explained properly and for the most part exactly how I feel.....Thank you for all that you have done for those of us facing this unusually characteristic.

2004
I don't think I have seen a website before that is as amazing as yours. Wow. I came across it when doing a web search on infantilism...something I have long been interested in. I have never read an article that explained the logic of regression and infantilism as clearly as your own. You lay out the object
relations concepts even better than an expert would because you thoroughly explain each one without continuing to add to the pile of jargon to confuse. Rather than obfuscate you illuminate. Brilliantly.

Anyway, to make a long story short, thank you. Thank you so very much. You are an inspiration and you are doing an incredible service to the public. You are educating both providers and consumers...(as well as those providers who are consumers...this represents quite a large population believe it or not)..and you are doing so in such a down-to-earth way. And again, I don't think I've ever read a paper that defines infantilism so convincingly. Kudos to you. Best wishes, E. H. (from NYC)

2004
I have fallen in love.......................and I have just been informed by my lover that he wears diapers. Not knowing anything about this, having never even heard anything like this or even imagining it, it got online. Finding sights that made me cry with dread. Praying for some help in understanding. I found this site. You have truly given me hope. This would not be a reason for me not to love this man. If you post this message I would have to say to someone scared to inform a lover, be brave, disclose, the right person for you will accept you and love you. S.K.

2004
From a Grad Student
I am a grad student at UMass Amherst in the DEpt. of Comparative Literature. I have found your definition and explanation of infantilism quite useful. Thank you for your help and a wonderfully clear, concise article. Your newest article, "An Object Relations Approach to Understanding Unusual Behaviors and Disturbances," was also quite helpful. Sincerely, S Morton, Ph. D. candidate

2004
From a 12-Year-Old Parent
I read your article with tears running down my eyes. My 12 year old son came to me last night asking if he could wear diapers. I sat down with him and asked him why he thinks he should wear them and he responded he didn't know. He is an Aspergers Child, but not severe. He doesn't have many friends, but is very liked at school. He's a tall boy for 12 and has always been mistaken for a much older child. His father re-partnered 6 weeks after we had separated and has since fathered two other children one is G 2and the other is B 6 months old. He gets on very well with both of them and the relationship between his father and myself is very amicable.

I'm trying to understand what he is going through and while frantically searching the internet came across your article.

I let him wear an adult diaper today and he seemed happy and cuddly all day. He actually wet his diaper and suggested it was now time to take it off. He seems happy, but obviously I need to understand his thought pattern currently. S.A.

2004
I recently came across your article "What is True Infantilism" on your web site. I would like to thank you for the most well-written, realistic and revealing article I have ever read on the subject. This is saying a lot since I'm now 40 and a life long infantilist.

A year or so ago I wanted to find out more about it through a therapist. Most therapists I interviewed via e-mail had no information on it and acted as though it was very rare. This was contrary to the hundreds of infantilists I know personally and the thousands I know of. It's out there in all age groups, races, and income brackets and there's virtually no reliable information available from an objective source such as yours.

I know from myself and others that this mental state caused us all a lot of grief and pain growing up when in-fact it's simply our reality and coping mechanism. Is is so terrible? No. I'm a fully functioning adult with a great career who finally realized how to balance it in my life and with my lover. It actually kept me off of drugs and things that were truly harmful. It took a lot of work and took it's toll on my life, but I'm finally there and content about it.
I just wish I had read your article 20 years ago.

As a result of limited information on the subject other than on sexually oriented sites, I give daily advice and information to people who contact me. Just the little information I send their way changes their lives forever. I will refer them to this site in the future. Fortunately the web now exists so we know others like us exist. This has been wonderful.

So...thank you and please keep up the good work and please let me know if you need any information from our end. E.

2004
I opened msn and typed in Infantilism then clicked search, your web page was third from the top. I must commend your efforts to research a topic that has been taboo for decades. J.A.

2004
Your articles are the only place that I have found an accurate description of the anguish, fear, guilt, and feeling of failure that accompany infantilism. The desire to stop. The urge to give in. The contradicting psychological feelings can tear a person apart. The desire to purge and then the overwhelming "psychological need" to indulge is unbearable.

I can remember these feelings as far back as when I was two or three years
old. I was in the hospital for surgery at age three. I remember being diapered by the nurses. It was the warmest emotion that I ever felt.

I used to think that I was the only one in the world that felt this way. Again and again you explain what and how I have felt for years. It is like you are inside my head.

It is discouraging that there seems to be no hope. I just hope God sees my sins in a forgiving light. Thank you Kathi for your tremendous intellectual input. At least I have a start at understanding. B.B.

2003
I have just read your site and have a greater understanding of what infantilism is, and for that I thank you very much. B.

2003
On your site you have written a documentation on Infantilism Paraphillic Infantilism I believe to be exact.

I am performing a study on this abnormal behavior, and discovered that there is not a whole lot of professional research done on the topic, besides what's on the Internet, which is not professional. APA journals which I have access to at my educational institution do not mention Infantilism (should I try a different name)? J.

2003
Your research and publication on the internet is highly insightful. You are obviously very gifted, compassionate and blessed with the ability to express yourself clearly. It would be a pleasure for me to share with you my experiences that confirm your thesis despite my extreme embarrassment about them usually. I hope you don't mind this note, but I feel as if I've met a kindred soul and felt compelled to let you know how deeply your work has touched me.

2003
Thank you for putting up your site. I have recently told some good friends .... and have gotten good responses. I am going to show them your site as well. Just in case I didn't answer all their questions

Oh, if you ever need me to do a questionnaire or help in anyway, I would love to. I spent about $8000 of my own money to see a counselor on this topic. She finally told me there is nothing wrong with what I do as long as I can confine it to the privacy of my home and not let my adult life suffer because of it.

2003
You have created a phenomenal site. I've never seen Infantilism explained in a more compassionate, understanding way. I was pleased to see the 'abuse' connection and the fact stated that diapers are not a fetish, they are a comfort/nurture tool. Thank you for that. S.C.

2003
I just want to tell you that you have written the best explanation of regression that I have ever read! Man! Is it on the money!!!!!! You would be a most interesting person to talk to!!!!!!!!! B.K.

2003
First of all let me say how much I appreciate your website and the work that you do Ms. Stringer. I have been reading Infantilism for about three years now, but didn't really understand it till I discovered your site about two months ago. J.C

2003
I was so happy to find your site! I did a search on infantilism (After finding out what it meant) and realized that I'm not alone! I read your write up about Infantilism and found it very very interesting, Thank you very much! C.M.

2003
I am what your site refers to as an Infantilist. I stumbled onto your site and found it to be well written and describes me in many ways to a tee. I only wish I could find a counselor that understood about infantilist so I could actually be able to work on my problems a bit more. I have come to terms with my infantilism and most of my family know about me now. (which helped me a lot) B.C

2003
Interesting and informative web site I enjoyed reading more about infantilism. M.L.

2003
I really found your article very informing. I need to talk to someone about it. I have a lot of feelings deep down inside of me that have recently emerged and I need to dump them on someone who can be trust worthy. Do you know of someone (Prefer some on in the mental heath field) that might have some experience in this matter.

Just need to talk to someone. Thank you. J.L.

2003
I want to thank you for the site you posted about Infantilism!

As you said, I thought I was the only one in the whole world. At first I tried denial. But the urge to wear a diaper and be a baby just would not go away. Years ago before the internet it was impossible to find any information about infantilism. It was difficult to even find the word "Infantilism". When I first accepted what was happening I could only find one page in one book in a four story book store.

I have since found several other infantilist. I have met many of them. I have found them to be ordinary people from all walks of life. None of them were "weird" or "crazy". So I figured that I probably was not all that "weird" or "crazy" either.

I have grown to accept that part of me that requires me to be a baby from time to time. I have even found that part of me has given me a better insight and understanding of my children and grand children. It some times is very helpful to see the world through the eyes of a child....P.S.

2003
I just read your article on your page explaining Infantilism . I am 19 and been struggling with this my whole life. I have never heard anyone explain my feelings as well as you. I am currently in a Job Corps . facility, and being in such a place is even harder on my "condition". Once again....Thank you from every bit of my heart and soul THANK YOU C.A.

2003
Your site is very interesting, and the first to take professional look at Infantilism, hopefully one day there will be more support, and maybe some kind of cure. Thanks J.S.

2003
I showed to my wife your writings along with others I found on the net. What you wrote is stuff I tried to share with her and did not know how to explain. I know now that she understands in greater depth. And is much more accepting. As time goes by I would like to keep you informed. Thanks again, John........

2003
I want to thank you. A few days ago I read, for the first time, your work on "What is Infantilism." I printed the opinion and read it over many times, then gave it to my wife to read.

I am a true Infantilist, who through the grace of God, has had the good fortune of being married to the most wonderful woman in the world. It will be 23 years this July 4th. We are both 46 years of age and she has known that I wear diapers since the age of 16, although it took years for her to come to understand why. I guess it is fair to say that I am still searching for answers myself.

Over the years I have experienced fear, guilt, humiliation, and despair in trying to come to terms with a lifestyle, imposed upon me from sources within and for reasons that I still do not understand. But what you wrote, at least for me, is one of the most plausible, insightful writings on the subject I have read.

My wife and I still struggle at times, with our ability to satisfy my urges. But even though I have dealt with these urges from my earliest memories to this day, you illuminated a condition and brought additional clarity to the subject for [my wife] and I.

Being of Irish decent, brevity is not my forte. So I will force myself to stop here and simply once again say thank you for your writing skills and compassion. Warmest Regards..T.S.

2003
I am happy that your web site takes an positive look at infantilism instead of an negative look at it. B.A.

2003
I just read your article on "Infantilism" and feel it is absolutely the very best article I have ever read on the subject!! L.B.

2002
Wow! Kathi that has to be the best analog on infantilism I have ever read. Blows out anything Tommy has ever written on the subject. Where did you learn all that? I believe what you wrote should be the corner stone on Infantilism. Everything you wrote down in each category made so much sense. I related to it very much. Please do not stop in your endeavors in explaining Infantilism especially when most everyone believes that infantilism is a fetish. You really did your homework on this one my little friend. Congratulations is deserved.

Thank you for such a wonderful explanation on infantilism. I printed a copy if you don't mind. I will definitely use it when I have the need to explain my behavior to someone.

Keep writing, you have a gift.

2002
I have been studying psychology books my whole life to find out why I was different. Your little letter to me told me exactly why! I never accepted Freudian ideas before because I thought there were other ways of explaining my behavior. You have described AB's motivations EXACTLY. If you can, please put your thoughts about infantilism on your website. It might help someone else. I really love your courage.

2002
---Thank You for posting this I hope many will read it and really feel what its saying. Yes all of you who feel uneasy about your infantilism, Its ok. You are beautiful and wonderful people and my feeling is that infantilism is a healthy way of dealing with things you missed out on as a small child. Be happy and secure with who and what you are. YOU ARE VERY SPECIAL.

2002
This is so awesome, my God, I couldn't believe I was reading this, it's right on the money, now I have a better understanding of what Infantilism is all about, I've been into this since age 5, and I know it's never going away, my inner child is thriving now, I wanted to cry when I read this, I can totally associate myself with this, really amazing! Thank you !

2002
Thanks for sharing what you wrote on this subject. It's very interesting and very well written too I think.

2002
I have been crying my eyes out over finally finding out the truth about infantilism. The healing process of years of repressed pain has finally begun! Your concern and acceptance of me is something that I will never forget. You are one SPECIAL person and I love you for helping me. Now I know a little bit more about myself and I hope I can help others who are still suffering. I will contact you sometime in the future to let you know how things are going.

2002
Very nice site. I have been wearing diapers since I was a teen and found what you said about infantilism very interesting. The part about there is no hope for me to ever quit wearing diapers is very true. My parents even tried a therapist when I was a teen but she was no help she didn't seem to understand. I know and have accepted that I will be in diapers forever.

If you have a view that you would like to share with me, I would be delighted. Kathi